One of the deepest human needs is to feel appreciated. It’s what makes us feel valued. It’s what makes us happy and it’s what motivates us.
- Change your body position to get on equal level with who you are talking to (stand if they are standing, sit if they are sitting)
- Smile (the corners of your eyes should crinkle if you’re doing it right!)
- Notice small things and mention them (i.e. a new picture in someone’s office)
- Remember birthdays (especially those who don’t expect you to remember)
- Remember names and use them (start with the one wearing a name tag at the grocery store)
- Go out of your way to do something nice for someone
- Catch people doing something good and tell them (and their boss!)
- Write a short note of appreciation or thanks
- Create fun: tell a joke, share a funny story – engage in a fun topic
Get out of your comfort zone and make better micro-connections with everyone you come in contact with. Exercise your appreciation muscle often through these simple micro-connects and they will soon become habits. You will immediately see changes in your relationships. You’ll notice right away the differences: better engagement, responses and results!
Betty Lochner is the Owner of Cornerstone Coaching & Training. She specializes in personal and organizational transformation and is the author of Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transforming your life at work and at home, 52 Communication Tips, and Gladie’s Gift. All are available on Amazon.com. To find out more about Cornerstone’s services and offerings visit our website: www.cornerstone-ct.com