COMMUNICATION TIP #5:
Shovel while your piles are small
When we can no longer change a situation,
we are challenged to change ourselves.
~ Viktor Frankl
The longer damaging or uncomfortable things are left unspoken, the longer they remain damaging and uncomfortable and the bigger the pile gets, until one day – Kaboom! You have a really big issue or problem to deal with.
Rather than avoiding issues that come up – or hoping they will go away – address them soon after they happen. Don’t wait.
Have the conversation you need to have the first time the issue comes up.
To start the practice of shoveling your piles before they become a big issue, you must say what needs to be said sooner, rather than later. Always do that in a kind and respectful way.
For example, if something happens that just doesn’t feel right, instead of letting it go, address it. For example, “It seems like you aren’t happy with me. Can we talk about that?”, or, “Can you help me understand the problem and how I can help fix it?”, or, “I’m concerned that this is happening. Can we talk about how to resolve it?”
Speak your truth sooner rather than later, and mind your piles.
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Betty Lochner is a communication specialist, author, and professional speaker who teaches individuals and organizations how to make small changes that make huge differences in their relationships at work and home – improving morale, confidence and productivity. She is the author of Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transforming your life at work and at home and 52 Communication Tips. Both are also available on Amazon.com.