Improving Relationships: Just Ride the Wheel

by Betty Lochner on September 1, 2015

The Seattle Big WheelWhen my husband, Ken,  asked me what I wanted for my birthday this year, I new what I wanted – to spend the day in Seattle and take my first ride on the Big Wheel.

So, the morning of my birthday he had compiled a fun itinerary for the day which included lunch at the market, dinner with my kids, and yes, a ride on the big Seattle Ferris wheel, also known as The Great Wheel, (though I prefer Big Wheel).

What made this gift even more special is that Ken went with me.  He is afraid of heights and a bit claustrophobic, and this was way out of his comfort zone.  But, he put on his brave face and got in that little enclosed capsule with me.  It was so much fun – for me.  For Ken, not so much.  He said things like “there’s nothing to hold on to” and “how many more turns?” and “don’t move around so much,” while I happily enjoyed the incredible view and moved around to see the different sights and take some pictures.

I realized when I was done that the best part of the gift was the testimony it gave as to how much he loves me.  He went way out of his comfort zone because he knew that it would make me happy.  Simple, but huge.

The experience reminded me of how easily it is to get in a rut and not try new things because we are fearful of something.  Fearful we may fall, fearful it may not work out, or that we may be embarrassed. But when we step out of comfort zone, the rewards can be great.

Remember that small things can make a big difference in a relationship.  And, well sometimes you just have to be brave and try those new small things.

What are you holding back on doing for someone else?  I challenge you to take a small step.  Get out of your comfort zone and get on that Big Wheel!


2015-08-26 15.12.24 HDRBetty Lochner is a communication specialist, author, and professional speaker who teaches individuals and organizations how to make small changes that make huge differences in their relationships at work and home – improving morale, confidence and productivity. She is the author of Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transforming your life at work and at home and 52 Communication Tips. Both are also available on



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