Live with intention, walk to the edge, listen hard, practice wellness. Play with abandon. Laugh. Choose with no regret. Continue to learn. Appreciate friends. Do what you love. Live as if this is all there is. ~ Mary Anne Radmacher
I’ve had those words hanging in my office for years now. It wasn’t until about a year ago that I finally got to meet the author, at a Womanhood conference in Idaho. She spoke on making promises to yourself. It inspired several blog posts, and I became an immediate fan of her beautiful books of inspiration filled with her artwork.
The “Betty Pause” artwork here is a badge she made for me for my Facebook page. It reminds me of one the areas I need to be reminded of – to take time to “Pause first”.
Today, I am excited share the following excerpt from her newest book Live with Intention: rediscovering what we deeply know.
Can You Be Fully Present for Yourself First –
Like the children’s literature creature going from one animal to another asking, “Are you my mother?”, I have been searching for a sense of home all my life. In relationships outside my blood family, in places, in shiny shells set up with colorful walls and complementary furniture. In spite of the fact that I have written, “When I say I am going home, I mean I am going where you are,” the hard and contradictory truth is, “I am my own home.”
Home is an answer of place from deep within me. Recently, in the face of a loving but frustrated litany of “Here’s what’s not quite right about you,” I’ve recognized that someone else’s assessment of me is not a depressing truth. It’s just their truth. In spite of being paired in marriage and added in to the lives of many cherished friends, I really am one, alone at the end of any of these relational equations. I have an incredibly supportive circle. Increasingly, while I honor the spiritual value of friendship and intimate relationship, I must acknowledge I enter my dreams alone, I walk the halls of my nightmare fears alone, and I press forward into growth and understanding, acceptance and personhood alone. “A party of one.” Yes, indeed and what a party it is. Being attentive to that single party first and before others is what enables me to be in dynamic relationship with others. I take care of myself, first. Then I am confident I am able to give, from wholeness and fullness, to my larger circle.
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Betty Lochner is the Owner of Cornerstone Coaching & Training. She specializes in personal and organizational transformation and is the author of Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transforming your life at work and at home. And, it’s now available on Kindle! Check it out.
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