A good attitude is a terrible thing to waste
Today I am grateful for all those things that go missing because their absence reminds me of how blessed I am to have had them at all. – Kate Nowak
It’s true. The University of Texas conducted an extensive study which found that people who maintain a positive attitude are significantly less likely to show signs of aging, less likely to become frail, and more likely to be stronger and healthier than those who have a negative attitude.
Your attitude can actually alter your body’s chemical balance. When people embrace a negative attitude of: “poor me,” “no one cares anyway,” “I/you did it wrong again,” “why does this always happen to me?” you could actually be shortening your life!
On the other hand, an attitude of hope and looking at things in a positive way can help you live longer. Really!
It makes sense that of the most powerful tools you can use to develop and improve relationships is your attitude. So, what can you do differently today to be more positive?
The challenge is to think first before you react.
Your circumstances in life contribute only about 10% to what happens to you. A whopping ninety percent of what happens is based on how your respond to your circumstances.
When something happens you that is negative, take a minute to think about how you will respond. Will you look for the opportunity or make the best of it? Or will you complain, blame and move toward the negative in the situation?
If you are a negative person, ask yourself why that is. There obviously something in your life that you need to be doing differently. What is that? Do some self reflection and ask yourself:
- What do I want out my life?
- What am I doing to make that happen?
- How am I hindering my personal growth by my attitude towards life?
And, most important, take total responsibility for your happiness. If you want to be more positive, try responding to situations in a different way. Practice pausing before responding.
Remember, you are the only one who can change you!
Developing a positive attitude is can have a transforming impact on how your life story turns out. Think about what your attitude is doing for you!
Adapted from: Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transforming your life at work and home
Betty Lochner is the Owner of Cornerstone Coaching & Training. She specializes in personal and organizational transformation and is the author of Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transforming your life at work and at home.
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