What makes your job stressful?

Most of us will agree that most of our work place stress comes not from the actual work we do, but from the relationships we have at work.

Do you have someone at work that you don’t get along with, or that just makes you crazy?  A co-worker, or maybe even your boss?  Is it something they did, or didn’t do?  Most likely it centers around an issue that can be solved by improving how you communicate with that person.

Good relationships boil down to clear and consistent communication

I’ve put together my best stress reducing tips and strategies  that really work.   I challenge you to try at least one of them. See if you can figure out which one I wrote just for you.

1)      Have the conversation you need to have.  Don’t expect something different to happen if you haven’t expressed your disappointment or concerns to your boss or co-worker.

2)      Don’t let issues fester. When something happens that needs to be addressed, address it. Tell your co-worker that you are offended, or that you need something different to happen. Have the courage to say what you need to say.

3)      Don’t let the situation get the best of you. Be kind and respectful. Always. You can say just about anything if your delivery is considerate, positive, and respectful.

4)      Make your expectations clear.  Say to your boss or co-worker – “here’s what I need from you to be successful.”  And then, tell them specifically what that is.

5)      Make a friend.  Find someone like minded or someone you admire and take the initiative to spend some time together. Go for a walk, or have coffee together on a break.  Connections with people you like will help you have some perspective.

6)      Make a list.  Write down three things you like about your job.  Keep that list as a reminder of the good things about your job, instead of focusing on the bad.

Take Responsibility

Remember, it is your responsibility to change the circumstances that don’t work for you, not someone else’s.  You are the only one that can change your reaction or perspective.  Be careful not to blame others for your unhappiness.  Instead, take a step toward lowering your own work stress.

Do you have other stress-busting strategies?  Please share them in the comments below.


Betty Lochner is a human resources consultant and expert in workplace communications and relationships. She is the owner and CEO of Cornerstone Coaching & Training, dedicated to helping individuals, work groups and organizations become better communicators and leaders. She is the author of 2 books on communication, and a journal Intentional Gratitude

In addition, she hosts a twice-annual Women’s Summit that brings women together to learn how to become more confident communicators.

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