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Keep Moving Forward

by Betty Lochner on January 18, 2016

Martin Luther King M onument

Today, as I enjoyed a beautiful walk with my daughter at Chambers Bay, surrounded by people from all walks of life and of all colors, I reflected on the life and legacy of  Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.  and the influence he has had on our country. He was passionate about all he did and believed it was our responsibility to work peacefully to better ourselves and the world around us, through advocacy and service.  And, he was a great communicator.  He not only had a dream, he could share it in a way that continues to inspire.

The Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial in Washington D.C. is by far my favorite historic landmark.  I took this picture on one of my trips.  The picture doesn’t do the statue justice – it is huge.  It is larger than life and calls you to reflect on the extraordinary and influential life of Dr. King.  It is a reminder of what one person can do when he takes action on a dream.

When I got home from my walk, I researched some of his life, read some of his wonderful quotes, and found  a few interesting facts I didn’t know:

1. His given name was not Martin.

Dr. King was born and named Michael King Jr. on January 15, 1929. But in 1934, his father, traveled to Germany and became inspired by the Protestant Reformation leader Martin Luther. As a result, King Sr. changed his own name as well as that of his 5-year-old son.

2. He entered college at the age of 15.

Dr. King skipped grades nine and 12 before enrolling at Morehouse College in 1944.

3. King was jailed 29 times.

Throughout his life, Dr. King was arrested for acts of civil disobedience. Many of the arrests were for trumped-up charges, including a charge for driving 30 miles per hour in a 25-mile-per-hour zone.

4. King’s mother was also slain by a bullet.

In June, 1974, as Alberta Williams King played the organ at a Sunday service, Marcus Wayne Chenault Jr. rose from the front pew, drew two pistols and killed her. She died steps from where her son had preached nonviolence. Chenault received a death penalty sentence that was later changed to life imprisonment, due in part to the King family’s opposition to capital punishment.

5. George Washington is the only other American to have his birthday observed as a national holiday.

In 1983, President Ronald Reagan signed a bill that created a federal holiday to honor King. The holiday, first commemorated in 1986, is celebrated on the third Monday in January, close to the civil rights leader’s January 15 birthday.

As I wind up the day, and this post, here’s one of my favorite quotes from this great communicator:

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Betty Lochner is the Owner of Cornerstone Coaching & Training. She specializes in personal and organizational transformation and is the author of  Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transform your life at work and at home, 52 Communication Tips, and Gladie’s Gift.  To find out more about Cornerstone’s services and offerings visit our website.

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New Year Priorities: Living with Intention

by Betty Lochner on January 6, 2016

intentionThe last few weeks have been filled with events, celebrations, and a lot of time off work.  It’s been wonderful, but this week it’s back to my routine. My routine. Right.  You mean the one that has me staying up til midnight watching Netflix with my husband, then slogging through work and saying no to new opportunities because I’m just “too busy?”

Nope. That routine doesn’t reflect what I want my new year to be like.  This year I want to take charge of my priorities and live with more intention.  And that’s my word for the year: INTENTION.  It represents what I want to focus on this year.

So, my first priority for this year is to rethink how I spend my time and be more intentional with my routine.

Here’s how I’m going to do that:

1. Make a plan.

2. Follow the plan.

That may seem a bit oversimplified, but basically that’s it.  I bought a new planner and have written down my plan.  It includes changing up my morning and evening routine to get more rest and time for reflection.  Formulating and then writing down the plan is the key to success here. When you write your priorities and goals down,  studies show that you will have about a 70% better chance of meeting them.  When priorities aren’t written down, what we make time for determines our priorities instead of the other way around: setting our priorities and spending time on meeting those goals. For example, binging on Netflix on a regular basis is not in the plan. It’s not my priority this year.  Getting to bed on time and waking up refreshed is.

I have a new am/pm routine that includes setting my clock in the evening and following an evening routine (setting my clothes out, making my lunch, checking my work schedule); and a morning routine (getting up on time, spending morning time reviewing my planner, setting my goals, and doing my Bible study.)

I’m a few days in and so far I’m following the plan. What helps is reviewing my goals every single morning and again every single night.  I’ve also written my word, “IINTENTION,” in my planner and on my white board at work and at home.  Seeing my word regularly reminds me to stick with the plan and to take charge of my time.

I challenge you this week to pay attention to how you are spending your time. Is what you are doing with your time reflecting your goals? Are you setting priorities, or is how you spend your time doing that for you?

Please share your thoughts, join the conversation and share your own word for the year on my Facebook page!

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Betty Lochner is the Owner of Cornerstone Coaching & Training. She specializes in personal and organizational transformation and is the author of  Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transform your life at work and at home, 52 Communication Tips, and Gladie’s Gift.  To find out more about Cornerstone’s services and offerings visit our website.

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My Most Read Posts on Communication

by Betty Lochner on December 28, 2015

Seattle-6598This is my lazy period between Christmas and New Year. Time to review 2015 – the highs, lows, what I did really well and what I can do better next year. I like to look at my previous years posts, and see what spoke to people.  It’s a fun retrospective and helps me set some goals for the new year.  It was interesting to see what my readers read, liked and shared most.  So, if you missed them, here they are – my most read posts of 2015:

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1. How to Have the Best Staff Meeting Ever – When boring just won’t work anymore.

2. Making Authentic Communication Real – Do you know yourself?

3. Through My Sister’s Eyes – Embracing the unexpected.

4. Fearless Presentations – 5 Things that Make a Big Difference.

5. Is Your Communication Good Enough?  Sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves to do it right, we don’t do it at all.

And, just for fun, here are my top 5 posts of all time – all logging in over 1,000 views to date.

1. How to Improve Your Listening Skills: 5 Strategies – May 2015

2. 10 Easy Appreciation Exercises That will Change Your Life – April 2013

3. 5 Ways to Improve Your Work Relationships - October 2012

4. 10 Ways to Be More Positive – November 2010

5. Controlling the Conversation - May 2011

This year I’ll be working on finishing my third book – it’s all about employee engagement and changing work cultures.  I’m looking forward to blogging on that this year.  If you want to get all my posts in the new year, you can sign up for email delivering here:

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Betty Lochner SpeakerBetty Lochner is the Owner of Cornerstone Coaching & Training. She specializes in personal and organizational transformation and is the author of  Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transform your life at work and at home, 52 Communication Tips, and Gladie’s Gift.  To find out more about Cornerstone’s services and offerings visit our website: cornerstone-ct.com 

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A Christmas Wish

by Betty Lochner on December 24, 2015

 

Wishing You a Wonderful Christmas

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GIVE

BELIEVE

BE JOYFUL

SING HAPPILY

PLAN FAMILY FUN

WISH UPON A STAR

BE MERRY AND BRIGHT

KISS UNDER MISTLETOE

BE WITH YOUR LOVED ONES

ENJOY YOUR HOLIDAY TREATS

DREAM OF A WHITE CHRISTMAS

MISS THOSE WHO ARE FAR AWAY

CREATE MEMORIES FOR YEARS TO COME

HUG YOUR LOVED ONES A LITTLE BIT TIGHTER

REFLECT ON THE JOYFUL YEAR THAT IS BEHIND US

BE THANKFUL

BE GRATEFUL

dogs and Christmas treeBetty Lochner is the Owner of Cornerstone Coaching & Training. She specializes in personal and organizational transformation and is the author of  Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills for transforming your life at work and at home, and 52 Communication Tips. To find out more about Cornerstone’s services and offerings visit our website:  www.cornerstone-ct.com

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Dante’s Adventures: The Gift that Lasts all Year

Here’s a gift idea I just had to share with you – it’s brilliant and focuses on building a relationship instead of giving “things.” Easy to put together and it lasts all year!

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The Thanksgiving Gratitude Challenge

Changing your daily attitude to one of gratefulness will change your perspective forever. How do you do it? Since gratitude isn’t always an automatic response, we have to consciously learn the habit of being grateful. One of the ways to do that is to take the Thanksgiving Gratitude Challenge.

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